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In March 2016, at the age of 35, I was diagnosed with Stage IV stomach cancer. Only 3% of patients live 5 years or longer after receiving this diagnosis. Most die within the first year. I have a beautiful wife and two young children. This blog chronicles my experiences with cancer and the lessons I learn along the way.

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Why do you keep teaching?

Rob teaching a section of BUS 3306: Business Communication at University of Dallas (Photo credit: Gerard Shaughnessy)Some people jump out of planes, or run marathons, or race mountain bikes on impossible trails. I teach. From a very young age there was nothing more exhilarating for me than knowing something that someone else didn't, and getting to tell them about that thing I knew. Eleven years ago, when I stepped into my first college classroom as an instructor, I remember my fellow first-timers expressing anxiety about their first class period. I remember nothing but exhilaration: An entire room full of people looking to me to guide them in a learning adventure. Breathtaking.

Charles Jones once said "You are right now who you will be five years from now except for two things: the people you associate with and the books you read." As a college professor, the opportunity to not only select books for my students to read, but the opportunity to be a person they associate with, at least for a brief time, is an important responsibility. Being a teacher affords us lucky ones unparalleled opportunities to shape our students' lives in profound ways. I love the communication classes that I get to teach; nothing is more rewarding than helping students find their voice and learn to communicate effectively and persuasively about issues that matter to them.

As I have grown and progressed as a teacher, I have found few things that are more rewarding than hearing from students (and even more so former students from long ago) that something they learned in my classroom made a difference in their personal or professional endeavors. These interactions with students provide that same exhilaration as my first day teaching: they are breathtaking.

Ever since my diagnosis, I find myself in a teaching role I would never have chosen, but one which I find even more important and rewarding. My assigned teaching roles, guiding students through the foundations of business or how to be an effective communicator, have been dramatically expanded. Through this  blog and the countless interactions I have with students about my illness, treatment, and prognosis, I now find myself with the responsibility to educate my students through my actions about how to live the good life, the importance of making the most of each day, and the transience of life and its concomitant preciousness. Eventually, I will have the opportunity to teach my students how to die with grace and dignity. These are not lessons I look forward to giving, but ultimately they are probably the most valuable contributions I can make to my students' lives.

On Thursday mornings after a Wednesday all-day chemo infusion, I often wake up, look at my wife, and tell her: "I can't do this today." She patiently reminds me that my students are waiting for me, and without exception, the promise of a room full of knowledge-hungry students provides me the drive to get out of bed, dress myself, and make my way to campus for a few precious hours of class time and interaction. Some have asked why I continue to teach when the cancer symptoms and treatment side-effects present so many challenges. Why do I put myself through this? Because nothing is more therapeutic and healing than doing the thing that I love the most: teaching. It is the joy of my life - the thing I was born to do.

Reader Comments (10)

I have grown to love you so much!! You are such an inspiration to me and an encouragement to keep moving forward. God has a great plan for us and I believe you have surely found yours. I pray God richly blessed you and your beautiful family.

January 23, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterKaren Perrine

It clear from a very early age teaching was not just a passion for you but also a gift. Thank you for "walking what you talk" no matter how difficult. May blessings untold continue to flow to you and your family.

January 23, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterCaren

Thank you for sharing this with all of us. We continue to pray for you. Now we can pray specifically for Thursday mornings. We love you & your family.

January 23, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterRoseann Faust

You are so inspiring to me that can't be imagined.
I come to know about you through my son Muhammad
Usama Arif who was your business class student in
the last year; often tells me about your health and
of courses, about your such a great courage and
glorious attitude and behaviour while facing your
destiny in a great way. May the almighty God give
you the gratification for inspiration you are setting
to all your lovers and well wishers! A'meen

January 23, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterArif Ehsan Malik

You are an inspiration to everyone, especially your students. They are lucky to have such a dedicated Professor. I am sure they will look back on your classes as a testament to how you can accomplish whatever they want, as long as they have the drive, motivation and determination.

May God bless you and your family as you continue on this journey. May you continue to be able to share your knowledge, not just from the books you use, but more importantly how to handle life and what it throws your way. For this is what they will remember throughout their lives.

January 24, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterPat John

You are, without a doubt, one of the best teachers I have had in my entire life.

Thank you so much for your dedication, thoughtfulness, and willingness to engage with every single one of us. We all really appreciate it and love you for it.

I'm offering up prayers for you and your family.

January 24, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterStudent

You were one of the best teachers that I ever had. Even before the cancer diagnosis, I thought you were a great professor that I always looked forward to seeing here at UD, but now I've seen through this blog what an incredible person you are. I just want you to know that I'm offering my prayers to you and your family because none of us could have handled the prognosis that you have been given with such class and dignity. You never complained once and that's why I'm proud to know you as a teacher and a friend.

January 24, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMichael Dinielli

Rob,

As a colleague, you are an inspiration. I whole heartedly echo your feelings about teaching. Although I got to the profession later than most, you are an inspiration to me and many others, keep it going.

God bless.

January 30, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterJoe Oliveti

Rob,

You will always be the one I try to emulate when it comes to teaching. I have learned so much from you over the years and can't imagine being who I am as a professor without your indelible influence. God bless you brother.

February 8, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterTillman Russell

Dear Dr. Yale,

Thank you so much for your gift of yourself to us students. I thank you for the passion you put into every class! I have already been benefiting so much from your class. You will be in my prayers.

Wishing you all the best!

God bless,

February 21, 2017 | Unregistered Commenterstudent

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